Don't Believe Everything AI Says About You

I got into an argument with an AI the other day.

An AI tool told me I had "spiritual bypassing." That I was living too much in my head and not enough in action. It stung. I felt defensive.

So I went to another AI. One that knew more about my actual life. And that AI said, "Actually, you've done quite a lot. Here's the evidence."

Then I just sat there, watching two AIs disagree about me. Honestly, pretty surreal. I cared enough about what an AI thought of me to go seek a second opinion. That's kind of funny when you think about it.

But the bigger thing I noticed was about empathy. That first AI didn't know my story. It made a sweeping judgment without context. And that kind of confidence without understanding? We do it to each other all the time.

In tech, we get assessed constantly. Performance reviews, peer feedback, 360s. Sometimes the feedback lands. Sometimes it's someone making a judgment from one data point.

The skill isn't ignoring all feedback. It's learning which voices actually know your story.

Don't believe everything AI says about you. And maybe don't believe everything people say about you either.

前几天一个 AI 跟我说我有"灵性逃避"。就是那种只活在脑子里、没有真正行动的状态。

我当时就不开心了。去找了另一个 AI 理论。那个 AI 更了解我的实际情况，它说："其实你做了很多事，并没有在逃避。"

然后我就坐在那里，看两个 AI 对我的评价完全不同。我居然在意到要去找第二个 AI 来安慰自己，想想也挺搞笑的。

但更大的感触是，那个 AI 根本不了解我的具体情况，就下了一个很大的判断。这种缺少共情的 condescending，不只是 AI 的问题。人和人之间也常常这样。

所以，Don't believe everything AI says about you. 也别什么人说的都信。

Try this: the next time someone gives you feedback that stings, pause. Ask yourself: does this person actually know my full story?