From “I Should” to “I Love, I Choose”
Burnout and Self-Love Coaching for tech professionals, moms and creators who are tired of living by the “shoulds”
Meng Chen | Bilingual Relational and Self-love Coach for Tech Professionals
This is for you if …
1. You are working in tech and feeling empty while achieving a lot of things, or keep stuck in procrastination.
2. You are a giving mom who has taken care of others so much and yet still feels guilty after big emotions, and you want to feel more ease and enjoyment with yourself.
3. You have done much work for inner growth but still feeling unsettled about who to trust or how to make changes on this path.
4. You are a content creator caught up postponing and wants to create consistently with focus and ease.
Or you are simply resonating with what I am saying here. 🙂
Hello I am Meng
As a Chinese immigrant who spent 12 years in big tech, Microsoft and LinkedIn, I had the shiny career, perfect family with two lovely daughters. And also felt empty inside. So I left. With coaching and mindfulness practice, I realized that I had been putting myself on the waitlist, for all the “should” voices from outside: “I should make enough money then switch career / I should be a emotional calm. / I should be a compliant student. / I should not write in a way that others won’t find me awkward… “
Now I work as professional coach to support my clients on similar journey. I coach in both English and Mandarin.
ICF ACC Coach | Licensed Trainer | x Linkedin TPM | 10y Mindfulness | Translator for <Mastering Life’s Energies> | Mixed Culture Bilingual
How Things Shift
Outer world
From Judging to Connecting
Real connection at home and at work starts when we drop all the “shoulds” and see people as more than the “problems” we label them. So we don’t feel isolated, have to do it all myself, and hold big emotions constantly. With your partner, your kids, your coworkers—relationships feel less draining and more loving and enjoyable.
Inner Self
From Self-Criticism to Self-Love
Something softens when you stop fighting yourself. You start to hear what you actually need beneath all the “shoulds.” You act from your values, not your fears.
For people who: often procrastinate, struggle with self-criticism, or feel empty despite their achievements
Reviews
Couldn’t recommend more highly
Meng is a truly gifted coach. Her warm, attentive presence creates a safe space for profound transformation. Meng has supported me to shift from suffering to ease, from ‘stuck’ to inspired action. I couldn’t recommend Meng more highly.”
— Karen McClellan
Truly gift
Meng’s gentle yet skillful approach creates a serene and reassuring atmosphere. Her insight and calm demeanor have a unique way of dissolving stress and instilling confidence. Meng truly has a gift for supporting others along their unique path.
— Christy Kelly
Highly recommend!
I benefited a lot from Meng’s warmth, curiosity, care, and the ability to balance between holding a safe space for my intuition to flow free and guiding me through structured exercises. If you are looking to partner with a coach, I highly recommend Meng.
— Anonymous
Clients’ stories
Her Story of delaying getting her master’s degree for seven years. Every year she wanted to complete her long thesis, but the research dragged on and the process became harder and harder. After months of coaching, she opened up to me about this long-held secret. When she stepped out the usual worries and thoughts about how things “should work”, she found a lighter way of finishing her degree by taking more courses and she graduated!
His Story of postponing on switching jobs: He was stressed about the challenging relationships at work and at home. For over a year, he kept postponing on preparing interviews for a new job. During coaching, he found out the habit and mindset of “following and complying”, and had been suppressed his own ideas. When he was able to communicate and do things more authentically, he found energy to step out of “I will prepare interview tomorrow.”, and found a ideal job at a large tech company.
Investments
1:1 Coaching Session
55-minute sessions every two weeks for 6 or 12 months
$210 per session
* Scholarship available for full-time students
Workshop for Team
2 hours
$500
Build trust and enhance belonging for the team, contact me for full day workshop.
FAQ
Q: How is coaching different from therapy?
Therapy’s purpose is healing. It’s like when you broke your leg during skiing: you go see the doctor first, not the gym to see your fitness coach. Once your leg has healed a little bit, you may go see your coach to work on the body, and sometimes you will see both of them. Professional coaching’s purpose is to support you in creating the life you long for, so you can have a life and a career with more enjoyment.
Q: Does this include career coaching
Q: What if I can’t afford to quit my job like you did?
Q: How quickly will I see results?
Q: How is this different from executive coaching or career coaching?
Q: What does an ICF-certified coach mean?
ICF means International Coaching Federation. It is the leading global professional organization for coaches. ICF certification requires: Documenting coaching hours, mentor coaching and passing a very rigorous knowledge assessment. Having this certification means this coach has met a verified standard of training, proficiency, and professional practice. I hold an ICF ACC credential and I am also a licensed academy trainer with the Academy for Coaching Excellence.
Trusted by clients from:
Google, Facebook, Microsoft, ApexLearn, Clemson U and Others